I just arrived back in Starkville from ASALH. What a time!
A deep wound that will forever pierce my soul is something I live with every day. As a griever and devoted grief worker, I had to find a way to make meaning out of the death anniversary. Or as a call it Ricky's Day of Ascension.
In what follows I share my dissertation acknowledgments, followed by photos of the day. Thank you!
The other day many of us learned that the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders ) added "prolonged grief disorder" to its list of mental illnesses.
I hope you all will wish Ricky a happy birthday with me and his family today.
A power is at work resuscitating the agency of grieving
.But first, thank you On August 3, 2021 in Springfield, MO my daughter and I along with friends remembered my son. This was the place where he grew up before we moved to Lincoln in 2015. It was a small, socially distanced gathering of vaccinated friends showing love for our beloved Ricky who went to Heaven last year … Continue reading Update on My Son’s Memorial Scholarship Fund
And the first post went up today! I am beginning this blog as part of my #selfcare and #griefwork. Now that Spring is here my heart is opened even more. I am sending my son's spirit forth in love through sitting in nature and being grateful for this beautiful Earth. Here is the blog logo … Continue reading I Started a #Birding Blog!
I love my son Ricky so much. I wake up thinking of him and he is my last thought before falling off to sleep each night. Now that he is in Heaven...
Hold space. Holding space means be with the griever in a nonjudgmental way. Be there but do not push, listen, and make statements that show your support. Avoid the wording “I understand” unless you have suffered the same loss. Try to say “I am so sorry you are going through this and I am here to help you with what you need.”
But beyond the many beautiful things I know of my son from his time on Earth I now know that as his mother the ways that I cope with Ricky's transition will mark my transformation in the After.