Hold space. Holding space means be with the griever in a nonjudgmental way. Be there but do not push, listen, and make statements that show your support. Avoid the wording “I understand” unless you have suffered the same loss. Try to say “I am so sorry you are going through this and I am here to help you with what you need.”
But beyond the many beautiful things I know of my son from his time on Earth I now know that as his mother the ways that I cope with Ricky's transition will mark my transformation in the After.